The stages of disequilibrium and equilibrium alternal through the first 16 years of life. Each parent must appreciabe that any stage be the so-called good behaviour must break up before the more advanced stage of equilibrium can be gained. Thus for example a baby who was so docile about feeding may at a year demand his own feeding implements. Added mafurity causes different child’s reaction: 2 years old may demand: I do it myself; independence in the 6 year old who says: No, I won’t. try and make me though at 5 he was pleased to obey, his mother: helpful 10 years old turning into rebellious 11 years old who cries: I don’t want to help you with your dishes. It may also change an enthusiastic outgoing 14 years old into a brooding moody 15 fortunately all these changes do not occur at random. They’re held in a lawful and patterned way does when the child is in better balance meaning with hiself and with the people and forces his world alternate with outside world. So when your child’s behaviour turns for the worse the reason may not be in the fact that something has gone wrong in his environment. It may be that a stage of equilibrium has been. By a stage of disequilibrium. Better or worse behaviour tends to alternate with ages. There is also equally rhythmic alternation. Too concentrated (focal) behaviour is followed by widespread or peripheral behaviour to help the individual be neither one extreme not the other. Parent may prefer their children being conservative and close to home or expansive and adventures. But at each stage parents should try to have patience with it’s opposite because children grow through these opposite extremes.
Behaviour at any age isn’t simply a sum of the specific things the child do. In this case psychologist we too give parents two warnings. The first one is not to match the child to it. Each child goes through the stages of grown, he may be a little anead if or a little behind the behaviour typical of his or her age. Thus parents shouldn’t be worried it their child is a little faster or slower then average. Psychologist recommend parents not compare your child with the aerage as to compare the child with himself. Anattractive chsild’s behaviour is “just a stage” and parents must be little more relaxed about it. They mustn’t flame too many people for the behaviour. Careful analysis of behaviour shows that distinctive sequence of behaviour stages seems to occur reparably as the child natures. There exist cycles of behaviour. Thus the first cirde occurs between 2-5 years once again between the 2-5 years of age, repeats it sell from 5 to 10 and occurs once again between the ages of 10 and 16. Each child gives he or her own undividual twist to these age sequences. Periods if relative equilibrium fend to the behaviour is less calm less well adjusted. And certainly behaviour can be out of bounds. The author gives the following: 4 year old child can reach out of bounds stage ahead of time or behind it. He may be such a lente nature that even at his work, he doesn’t go far out of bounds or on the contrary he may be when a vigorows nature that at ready age he’s more or less out of bounds. Sometimes when there’s complete and considerable disequilibrium’s between the child and his environment some children seem to be in harmony and peace with themselves even at ages when their behaviour is quite disturbing for those who are around them. So parents must by all means the rhythms of growth, the alternations between expansive and inwardized ages between harmonious and inharmonious periods and to recognize that calm is often if not always followed by storm and vice versa. Each child is an individual and this fact must always be kept in mind. It’s also a matter of great importance to remember that every age has it’s positive as well as negative aspects and even in the “worse” ages there is always a “better” side. For example 6 year old may be often rebellions ages save demanding selfish but at the some time he shows great enthusiasm and love of life.